You know those feelings you get right before the first date? The excitement, the nerves, the sense of anticipation and possibility, the idea that this could very well be the start of something big... I'm feeling all those things as I await our first advice question!
Rome wasn't built in a day, and I suppose Ann Landers wasn't either. On the plus side, the site has had a couple hundred page views since launching last week, a few comments on the 'who pays for dinner' post, and even a couple of followers on Twitter. On the flip side, well, it's hard to dispense advice if no one asks for some :)
Like someone entering the dating world, though, I'm staying positive and refusing to get discouraged. So here are a couple of helpful reminders as we get off the ground:
* Email me, the Equal Time Guy, at dearequaltimeguy@gmail.com. Anything related to dating and relationship is fair game. Ask away on all things love. Heck, I'll even offer a few thoughts on what you should have for dinner tonight if you just can't decide on the menu. As our old friend Encyclopedia Brown used to say, no case is too small (and I won't even charge you the 25 cents fee).
* Follow me on twitter @equaltimeguy.
* Offer your thoughts in the comments section below my posts.
I know in my bones this site will be helpful and fun - we just need a little push to get started. Hope to hear from you!
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Men are From Sports, Women are from Weddings
As far as I'm concerned, the wedding of the century happened back in 2009, because, oh man, you should have seen how my wife looked in her dress.
But since Will and Kate's wedding seems to be making a run at second place, I thought I'd at few thoughts to the mix.
For instance, I read with interest Joanna Molloy's column in the New York Daily News yesterday. Entitled "Royal Wedding: Women Get Misty-Eyed, But Guys Just Don't Get It," she writes about the perceived stark difference along gender lines in terms of reaction to the royal wedding. In other words, women woke up at the crack of dawn to watch every second, while guys grumbled at the coverage and wondered what the fuss was all about.
Look, I won't deny that there's something to that. My wife spent Friday night with a group of women watching the whole wedding on DVR, while I stayed home and watched baseball with my dog. Clearly, our different interests were on full display.
But I submit to you that this is a good thing, not a bad thing.
Part of the richness about life as a couple is that you fill in each other's gaps. My wife brings a diverse range of hobbies and interests to our partnership that I didn't have on my own; I like to think I do the same for her. And that makes our collective life more complete. When she got home, she filled me in on all the ceremony details, and I let her know the final scores. We both went to bed happy.
I disagree with the premise of that article, then, that guys "don't understand" why this was a big deal. If something is important to my wife, then it's a big deal to me. And vice versa. For instance, I've stayed up until the middle of the night, or have gotten up at the crack of dawn, to watch sporting events, and my wife thinks that's awesome. Not only that, but she'd definitely watch and cheer with me - if the game was still on at a reasonable hour :) By the same token, we've looked through hundreds of Will and Kate wedding photos over the weekend.
That's the beauty of a relationship: what yours is mine, what's mine is yours. And I'll be the first to hope that this is what Will and Kate have found in each other.
But since Will and Kate's wedding seems to be making a run at second place, I thought I'd at few thoughts to the mix.
For instance, I read with interest Joanna Molloy's column in the New York Daily News yesterday. Entitled "Royal Wedding: Women Get Misty-Eyed, But Guys Just Don't Get It," she writes about the perceived stark difference along gender lines in terms of reaction to the royal wedding. In other words, women woke up at the crack of dawn to watch every second, while guys grumbled at the coverage and wondered what the fuss was all about.
Look, I won't deny that there's something to that. My wife spent Friday night with a group of women watching the whole wedding on DVR, while I stayed home and watched baseball with my dog. Clearly, our different interests were on full display.
But I submit to you that this is a good thing, not a bad thing.
Part of the richness about life as a couple is that you fill in each other's gaps. My wife brings a diverse range of hobbies and interests to our partnership that I didn't have on my own; I like to think I do the same for her. And that makes our collective life more complete. When she got home, she filled me in on all the ceremony details, and I let her know the final scores. We both went to bed happy.
I disagree with the premise of that article, then, that guys "don't understand" why this was a big deal. If something is important to my wife, then it's a big deal to me. And vice versa. For instance, I've stayed up until the middle of the night, or have gotten up at the crack of dawn, to watch sporting events, and my wife thinks that's awesome. Not only that, but she'd definitely watch and cheer with me - if the game was still on at a reasonable hour :) By the same token, we've looked through hundreds of Will and Kate wedding photos over the weekend.
That's the beauty of a relationship: what yours is mine, what's mine is yours. And I'll be the first to hope that this is what Will and Kate have found in each other.
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